Another peculiar post of mine

Why do those girls wearing tudung wear tight clothes?

After reading maji's post regarding the new hijab, I try to find the reason for their action of wearing tights seeing how is it becoming a trend nowdays in lembah beringin. I done this solely out of my boredom at home which seems increasingly intolerable.. This is how I look at it:
right, let us assume
1) Girls always compete with each other to seek and attract guy's attention
2) Straight guy's like hot bodies of girls
3) Only 2 types of clothes exist, loose and tight. Meaning to say there's no other type of clothes in between of those two.
4) The degree of body hotness of a girl is only known to men if that girl wears tight clothes
5) equally, if the girl wears loose clothes, men would not have any idea how hot the body the girl have.

The degree of body hotness

Ok, let's use a scale to gauge one's body hotness such as 0 is a very bad body where men have totally no interest on it whileas 100 is the most voluptuous. Like height, using normal distribution would be more relevant as the mean value of girls in an society would tend to be on the average of 50.

Then, try imagine every girl wears loose clothes. This will caused that those who have high index body which is hotter than the majority of average only knows her own body is hot. More importantly for them, men have no idea how hot they are. Therefore, it's obvious to signal their body hotter than the average by wearing tight clothes will distinguish them from the masses in the eyes of men. In doing so, they will draw men's attention and eventually win the competition.

However, if a girl have very high index body and yet wearing loose clothes for the sake of respecting their dress code as a muslimah, then it's safe to say that the girl is indeed religous and can be called Hijabis or Muhajjabeen ( terms that being used by maji ).

Follow through, Make your dreams come true

When we talk about fulfilling our dreams, intuitively we might consider it as a simple matter or phenomenon, it is in fact very complex (And yes, I'm aware that I have a natural tendency to view everything such like) .Considering the comments given on my previous post regarding fairy tale, I felt it has quite a lot resemblance with the topic covered in this entry, which is about making our dreams come true.

For starters, dreams (Maybe the more appropriate word here would be "vision" instead, as the word "dreams" would probably bring some negative connotations from others.But in synchronizing this post with the lyric of my all-time favorite song, I'll stick with the latter one) are always necessary.I'm sure most of us would agree that we are driven by our dreams.By chasing our dreams, it brings us to life.Without any dream, I guess life will become practically aimless.Once in a while for most and frequently for some, we will found ourself contemplating our own dreams for the future and recalling all of our past hopes, expectations, and dreams which have led to today.We spend a great amount of time of our lives in the quest to attain and achieve our dreams.The dreams could be anything and how we define our dreams will vary greatly and will be determined by our unique situation, condition, talents and creativity.The very foundation and circle of life differ accordingly for every individual depending on the environment and society one belongs to.For instances, a student studying in rural areas and never exposed to the outside world might not have the dreams to get his tertiary education overseas as most top achiever from boarding schools shares.Don't you think that in case we stop pursuing our dreams, life will have a whole different meaning for us?Well for me at least, it certainly will.

Sometimes we will stop chasing our dreams after trying for a period, and when we failed to achieve our dreams, we become disappointed and stop pursuing them further.We normally just stop dreaming, either the reason is the dream is broken or because our dream seem clearly impossible to achieve.I don't think there is a need to cited any examples as you can find it common occurring.In my humble opinion, I think it is best if we first decide for which dream that we deem worth chasing to avoid disappointment.By getting a star you will be frustrated nonetheless if your aim is all set for the moon and what can be more saddened if you didn't manage to acquire even the star itself?This is crucial since chasing an impossible dream is a futile exercise.If you chase wild dreams, you're basically chasing the illusory or the unreal.There is no meaning for such chase as it is never going to happen.For example, I've been craving to attend Wharton Business School for my undergraduate, but is it possible for me to realized it?The answer is simply no especially after I'd turned down mara offers.So, what I mean is to filter those unrealistic dreams of ours first and then only we chase the others.Realizing our dreams is only sensible when our dreams are practical and well thought of.

Surely, you'll agree that nothing comes easily is worth for us to dreaming about and I guess if you dream is not too far-fetched, you might get it somehow.As long as we didn't go pursuing our dreams in a manner that we get so fixated and lost touch with the reality or stop appreciating finer moments in our life, then it is always in line with the Maslow's concept of self-actualization(Where the mind reach a state where its efficiency is at its peak).There is another factor that plays a major role, which is fate or destiny.If you're a creationist, then surely you would agree that luck is just another event that was determined by God.Yes you know best how it goes, that is all part of God's knowledge and only He knows everything as He is the All-Knowing.What we need to do is just to do our job or home work and try our best and utmost to achieve our dreams, make the best effort and uses of our ability.If we're sincere in everything we done, God will surely help us.I totally agrees with all of it.But I would like to add that we only have right over our effort or action and not the fruit of the effort.There is a simple philosophy "Bertawakal selepas habis ikhtiar dan berusaha, kemudian redha dengan segala keputusannya" which I found indeed a very pragmatic attitude.

Here goes a question, will anyone ever do anything without desiring any results from his or her action?Definitely not as our actions are directly or indirectly motivated by desire for the results.Personally, I think by sheer common sense there is nothing wrong in beginning a work with a specific result fix in mind, the main point is not to be so attached to the result.When we start a work we cannot help but to set a goal for us to achieve as otherwise we would not have it started in the first place.But once started, we should only concentrate on the effort and action without worrying on the result as the anxiety will likely reduce our efficiency.In addition, if we give everything into the work we're doing, I believe the result will automatically follow up, and even if it does not, due to some unavoidable factor which we have no control on it(Simply speaking divine intervention), we will not feel that frustrated as we have already had all the satisfaction derived from the work itself, especially if it's truly a pious effort.

I'll try conjecture on this matter further with my own experience and maybe you will found the situations helpful or familiar to yours.Sometimes, when I look back on my life and recalling past dreams that have come and gone through during each phase of my life, I realized I often fail to consider what it feels like to actually get right here where I am right now and the whole purpose of it.I remember of how wonderful life used to be when I was a child and the invaluable reminiscence of my school days.Sometimes I find myself lamenting all that I'd left behind and all that which will never happen again.I thought about the people in my life who have come and gone, some who I will never have the pleasure to speak with again.I reflects upon peoples that I encountered throughout my life, many who I will probably never have the pleasure to meet and talk together again and the experiences regardless whether it's good or bad which only exist as memories of my mind.The main reason I failed to really appreciate those moments is solely because I was too busy pursuing my dreams of the future while abandoning the present

It really dawned me as new days unfolding around me, I realized in reality, dream is a vision of something intrinsically imperfect, bringing stress and frustration.It makes me take those unassuming wonderful moments of my life for granted and just slip past me in my busy plight.I am very grateful and feel extremely blessed that I've attained and achieved quite a number of my dreams.Yet still, I often find those attainment of my dream either it signifies the beginning of a new dream and journey or brings wholly unexpected complication to my life.In my discovering the richness of written knowledge (when I was employed by MPH), it was the moment when I realized apparently most of the self-help books found in the bookstore are useless.I have read many of them and I feel only a couple of the books which I found quite exceptional worth to be highlighted in my blog.For workable study about our dreams (ambitions and visions) , you have to read the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, and of course it will not mean anything if you don't harbor an intense desire to make a change withing ourself even before reading it.Also I found the content of Johnson Spencer's Who Moved my Cheese and The Present really useful and appropriate to be read in the context of this post

All in all, I found the question of whether to pursue our dreams more of like choices of preferences between idealism and pragmatism.Neither ends of personal philosophy of any of the spectrum get us to any great levels.Too obsessed with idealism makes us living in a fairy tale while on the other hand, too much pragmatism will inevitably stifles ambition and courage.You will found this is somehow of a question mark in your mind by itself and I'll leave readers to have their own definitive views on this matter.In my opinion, the aphorism "every man is a philosopher" rings true.I believed sometimes the questions itself are far more important than the answers, the reason is, if you hold a burning question inside, you will eventually hunt dynamically for the right answers.And finally, I found out that my post turned out far longer than what I previously expected

This life's too good to last, and I'm too young to care.

Surely you'll know that the only ending to a fairy tale of the prince charming and beautiful princess is to ride off together into "happily ever after".Meanwhile all the evil witches and dragons would been vanquished, and the couple's every dreams will come true.But the only problem is that, ultimately, it's just a fairy tale.In reality, only a few of your dreams may come true, but most of them will not.In fact in real life, you will increasingly find that the prince more often than not, falls in love with the witches instead, dear me.

Yesterday has been a melancholy day for me as it looks like someone has had a very rough day(you know who you are).You do know that I really feel sorry that you have to face all the problems cause by that men for the past 3 years.It'd been my sincere intend for you to really know where you want to go or do after all this, I mean we did talk bout that matter countless number of times.I'm really sorry if you take everything I've said personally and found it unbearable.And as yet, it sounds like its a whole lot better than whinging about him(you ask me whether I'd read your latest post) after you have decided not to.

I realized that in trying to be all things to everyone, we may end up being nothing to no one, and dragging everyone else down with you.That's the main reason I dedicated this entry especially for you, to make the situation crystal clear and meaningful for you.Isn't it ironic when you claimed me to be a psycophants, when yourself has progressed to the point where niceties are expected by everyone you talk to and when you hear someone told you his point of view you don't find it nice would be interpreted as rude or even intolerant.While by no means am I advocating for us to be lack of such social 'graces", I'm sure you could bear a little more of people saying "let me be straight forward with you" especially when he is sincerely meaning it and trying his best to help you.

I really know how you feels, where certain days wouldn't be bearable without good friends, no matter how stoic you may pretend to be with me.Yesterday was one such day.There's only so much that you can endure, and only so many problems you can deal with before you need someone to stand behind your back and help you back to your feet.I'm really glad you didnt mean what you said or said what you mean and now hopefully, you won't stick to what you have said.It seems I'm pointing the finger at myself a bit, considering my previous infatuations.But hey, although I'm a slow learner I'm still a learner regardless =).